How to Experience a Life Few Will Ever Know and Most Would Envy

What proportion – do you think – of the things you’ve done in life to date are comprised of things that have separated you from the crowd?

How many times have you consciously decided to take a route that very few others would ever dare take?

This is a post I know will be completely irrelevant to some of you, because stepping out of conformity feels uncomfortable. To others, being different comes easy, like it has for me. It’s always been harder for me to join the crowd than to step outside of it (most of the time!).

But for the handful of you reading this who already know deep down that they were made to detach from the herd and to cut their own path, this will only serve as a reminder.

I agree that a life in which your basic needs are met – one in which enough money is coming in; you’re not depressed most of the time; one with a family, children, a loving family; and a life where you contribute to the local community – can be a perfectly reasonable life for many.

Personally, I want more, and have always wanted more. I want to live a life where not only my basic needs are met, but they are greatly exceeded in several areas.

Is that selfish of me? Absolutely. But living a remarkable life is not just about me. I have received most of my satisfaction in life from knowing that I’ve helped others in some small way.

And so by living remarkably, I do it to know that I can share what I’ve learned with those of you who also want to experience something similar.

I do it so that down the line, I can share the view from the top of the mountain with those of you who also decided to break away.

If you want to live a remarkable life, rich in success, heightened experiences, belly-giggle happiness, with a dedicated tribal following, this is the question to ask yourself:

What are things I can do from this point on that few others, if any, would even dare do?

What can I do today that few would bother to do out of fear, boredom, excuses or scorn?

What is something others would deem ‘unreasonable’ that I can commit to doing that I’d refuse to quit in my pursuit of it?

Think of someone you admire who inspires you and look over the path that lead them to where they are now. Did they make sensible, conforming choices in life?

Write a list. Then decide on what to prioritise. Then commit to forming a habit doing the thing many will not do.

The more dedication, persistence, and/or courage it takes, the better.

Note that this does not necessarily mean doing crazy and foolhardy things like playing chicken in a busy street. These things need to grow you as a person with the intention of making a positive change in some way, whether at a microscopic or a gigantic scale.

Doing the ‘unreasonable’ can include things that take courage in a quick instance, but they also cover those things that take small everyday actions that are not particularly unreasonable in and of themselves. Gradually strengthening your body and mind for example.

My greatest rewards in life have always come from pushing away from the ship in my little canoe and taking a different route. Whether that has been through moving to Tokyo and Vietnam on my own, to starting and maintaining a blog for entrepreneurs for six years, to quitting my job seven years ago and not looking back.

This is not a question to sit on for tomorrow. What could you do today that will ensure a remarkable life tomorrow?



  1. Great post thanks for writing it 🙂 I reflected that in the past 10 years I’ve ‘broken rank’ and done the unexpected/brave/scary/unconventional thing in 8 big ways. Each action caused massive growth and personal transformation.

    I like your point that courage can be a consistent daily habit, something I never considered 🙂

  2. I always love your posts so much – I have always been like that – never fitting in with the crowd, and knowing from quite a young age really – that I wanted more, exactly like what you write. I am on that path now to being the artist I’ve always wanted to be, taking a small step at a time, but I know from this now I could do so much more. Thanks so much for this – it just reaffirmed things for me – brilliant

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